Truth is boring !!!

           Speaking the truth always is the most difficult thing to do in this world. At the same time, truth is also the most boring thing ever. I am used to telling lies, just to make the person sitting near me a bit more happy. Then to maintain that lie, a whole lot of interesting drama happens. In this regard, recently I had a conversation with him, which is worth while recording and sharing...!

 Control and manage human existence in this world?

           When you don't speak the truth, a negative emotion called guilt comes into existence, which is usually  accompanied by another one called fear. . . ! To surpass these negatives in a easier way, my grand mother usually preaches me 'always speak the truth, truth is next to god!'. This is when he asked me the question 'What do you call as truth? what do you consider as truth in this existence?' According to me, Truth is what ever is real, happening, fact and numbers. I thought for a second, I could not explain truth in more realistic terms. We always need an example to explain things, don't we? but he asked me not to explain this using examples..! 

           Then, he told me, 'Truth is what you believe in. Not every thing in the world can be quantified, proved. Most of the things, we can only just believe. When you hear from people, read from books, see in action; we just believe things and imagine that it is real.' And according to me what ever is real is the truth, but then he tells 'its all that you have believed'. Looks like both of us are in the same plane, but after that he told. ' by practice you can start to believe any thing and then your truth becomes different from my truth.' This is when I got baffled, many new questions...

Have I believed in what he just told,? (is it the truth?)
If what he says is true, then is truth not a unanimous thing? (is it different depending on our beliefs?)
Do all these negative emotions like fear and guilt need to be associated with truth? (specially when its not unanimous)
Or are these emotions just used by almighty to control and manage human existence in this world? ( by just making you believe that you are lying... )

Yet another, Love on the spot story!

I was listening to my friend shiva say with full josh..., 'He proposed to her the very next day she joined college. He was one year senior to her, and he decided to propose to her the day he saw her. She liked that attitude in him and she accepted... now they are in love' I could see the glow in shiva's eyes...! , 'ya..., unbelievable da...'we were looking at her photos in fb, ya she was cute, in fact very cute.... humm! we looked at each other.' No more chance for you mappi, forget it.' 'ya...'  umm....

AmyJackson - Model

Dont we hear this every other day, said by every other person. Every single person wants this to happen in their college life. isn't it? We saw it happen in VA, suriya proposed to Simran and Megna Naidu as soon as he saw her. He says, ' I just fell in love, I was crazy in love', shabaaaa....!

Is it how it really happens? Do you know your soulmate in a spark, the very second you see her? In that case, this kind of a spark happened to me loads of many times..., If I go behind all those girls proposing will it not look real weird? Or should you give it a shot every time you get this in your mind!? How long will this last? for ever? nah....

I don't believe in this, it doesn't seem real. If I get a chance, I will call that guy and ask him to consult a psychiatrist! I would tell him, "There is something wrong in the way your brain is functioning."

Or, may be these words of mine, are coming out of jealousy and envy, that such a thing din't happen in my life... yet!   Lol ;) ?   ha ha ...!

What can dirty money do to you?

Amir Bowling the disgusting No-Ball at Lords

Is there some thing called dirty money?

The recent allegations against the Pakistani cricketers.... They took money to bowl no balls in a test match at lords against England. What can 3 no-balls do to a test match? In a test match, there are almost 600 balls bowled per day and around 3000 balls bowled in 5 days of test match. 3 balls is just 0.1% of the game (fixed), and never changes flow of the game. None of the side could possibly win or loose a match because of these 3 balls .... an average cricket fan like me is least bit bothered about these 3 balls.

But, shocking news is the amount of money involved in bowling these 3 balls(under performing) is £ 160,000/- . Any Normal fan in Pakistan, following cricket can not earn this kind of money even in 2 of their lifetimes put to-gather! Hoe will a captain concentrate on winning, if he is concentrating on, these no-balls ( as per the fix)? Shame, shame and shame.... look at where greed can take you..!

My question to salman batt,

• If u are born to be a cricketer in Pakistan, that itself is a greatest boon, isn't it?
• Don't you get loads of money any-ways?
• Why do you need this dirty money which will cost you the rest of your life?

And this is for you Amir...

         God gives talent, skill and fame. Along with it he gives all the opportunity to screw it. There are loads of people out here asking god for the skill talent and the opportunity to perform. Those prayers are never answered. Instead god takes someone else to the top, but when you are on the top, stay really careful, there are loads of people out here who will wait to laugh at you, seeing you fall (like this) !

"Helping yourself" - is it defined as an act of selfishness?

Learn to be selfish!

Imagine, you are swimming in the sea. You can swim well, but the sea currents are too high and its difficult.... There is another person near you who who cant swim well, is in a much more difficult situation than you and is almost drowning to death. You are sure that you can save yourself by swimming towards shore. You are not sure if you can help the person who is drowning to reach shore along with you, but if you leave him where he is now, he will certainly die because there is nobody around who could save him. now, what are you supposed to do...?

# If you decide to leave him alone and you reach shore safe, is it considered to be an act of selfishness?

# Don't you have to save yourself before you could save others?

# Is it a good idea to drown along with him?

# When you yourself are drowning, how can you help someone else?

# Do you have to carry the guilt with you, because you din't risk your life to save him?

# Isn't it the other person's fault that he dint learn to swim in sea waters, to save himself?

I really don't understand where the line between selfishness and helpfulness really lies?

If you help someone and as a result which you fail to reach your destination, would you feel good for what you have done to yourself?

Isn't it better to stand responsible for your own actions and help yourself rather than trying to help others ?

After a deep thought, I feel it would be perfect if every one helps himself in this world. Live and die only for your own actions deeds and thoughts, rather than looking up to someone else for help!

Do we really need to hate it ?

I am always wanting to change from who I am now. A philosopher once told me that loosing identities will make you feel secure and happy.

Does it mean that people around you, things you are associated with and things you own should keep changing?

Which means, should we need to be running away from things you are associated with in regular succession?

On the other hand, listening to philosophers and saints is a stupid idea, because they themselves have no idea what they are talking about.

Friends at home, Nottingham - my Birthday, 2010

Do we really need to hate something if we are moving away from it? There is a hazard that we may miss it later after moving away from it...., so is it a better idea to condition the mind telling how much we hate something before we move away from it. So that we ll never have a chance of missing it any further and look for something new with a full new thought and mind co-ordination.

haaaa....After a deep thought, I feel that..., some things can never be shed off, can never forget, will always miss.... we can try to blame it and curse it and pretend that its sour, but it never goes off your mind. It pains, it hurts but that is the real pleasure and happiness. The more of such precious things you find in life, the more happier you will become.... I dedicate this to my dear friends in Nottingham Mihir, kalpesh, rinesh, yamini, pranav and agam!